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You are a gift

giftSince tomorrow is Christmas Eve, I wanted to take a moment to stop and express my sincere gratitude to each and everyone of you who read this blog. This year you have been my sounding board, my therapist, my conscience and my creative outlet. I feel I am blessed that someone is sympathizing with the plight of a working mom, understanding the up’s and downs of family finance, and enjoying some of the recipes created here.  You, readers are a gift to me.

In the spirit of holiday fun and merriment, I wanted to bring some video clips to get us all in the mood for a visit from Santa, or to light the Menorah . Have a wonderful, safe and happy holiday!


Mom’s Christmas List

Moms Christmas ListEach year the hectic pace of the season, the barrage of holiday advertisements and the flurry of holiday related activities, can cause us to loose our enthusiasm for the season. As Mom’s often feel it is our reasonability to ensure that everyone has the best Holiday ever. However often we do this at the sacrifice of our own joy of the season.

We are always so concerned with making sure we get everyone the perfect, meaningful gift that expresses our love for them. We struggle to make everyone’s Christmas as special and memorable as it can be. Mom’s help with the PTA Christmas parties, plan the office festivities and the charitable donations to help someone in need.

Mom is the person who plans out, shops for, and slaves away in the kitchen making the perfect Christmas dinner, while everyone else plays, or sits on the couch. Mom is also the one who creates the Christmas memories each and every year. She bakes the cookie, initiates the decorating, and mails out all the Christmas cards.

All of this she does at a break neck pace. Mom handles weekends filled with frantic shopping, party attending and gift wrapping. By the end of it all us mom’s are exhausted and lets face it, the joy of the season has been sucked right out of us.

It is tough to have joy when you know the day after Christmas you must return to work, a mountain full of Christmas dinner dishes and a depleted savings since you spent your Christmas bonus. It becomes easy to start to dread the season when it seems we are the only ones giving.

And as much as we love our handmade ornaments, and waffle irons. Sometimes we just wish someone would acknowledge all that we do. Sometimes we wish we could celebrate without all of the work, hassle and fun-sucking holiday reasonability. Like most times of the year, mom’s we have brought this on ourselves. Have we ever told our significant others to take on some of the holiday tasks for us? Did we ever let go of the never ending list of Christmas responsibilities we thrust upon ourselves? Have we ever really asked for what we want for Christmas?

Well, mom’s this year (and hopefully for years to come,) we can take back our Christmas and celebrate instead of slaving away. Here is at least the start of a list of Christmas wishes a mom should ask for. Adjust it for your situation and family. What is more important is to put things on this list that make YOU happy, content and bring YOUR joy back to the holidays.

A Mom’s Christmas List

  1. To not having to shop for everyone by ourself

    Please Dad’s it would be a great to have a little help here. Plus, seeing as in most case mom is the one with the kids, this responsibility robs us of any “me” time we might have (or desperately need) during the season.

  2. To have a maid during the holiday’s

    It is near impossible to get all of the Christmas shopping, baking and decorating done while family members leave constant messes in their wake for mom to clean.

  3. To have someone else do the laundry during the holiday’s

    With the constant events, activities and parties the amount of laundry seems to have doubled. With less time to get it all done it sits in a wrinkled pile on the laundry room floor. This is the newest in holiday décor.

  4. To not put on 10 lbs by the end of Christmas

    Yes, I know this comes in the form of will power. It is not really a gift anyone else can give us, but is something we need to give ourselves. By taking some of the holiday pressures off we would be less likely to stress eat and over indulge. Eat some of the things you enjoy that are special but doesn’t loose all care about yourself and your health this holiday. Gift yourself good health.

  5. To have dinner made for YOU

    Boy, wouldn’t it be nice to come home from a long day during the holiday’s to find a dinner cooked for you? Instead you are greeted with  “Mom’s, what’s for dinner?” At which you look in the pantry and realize you have to work some Christmas magic on a can of corn, a bag of fish sticks and a jar of tomato sauce since you never got to the grocery store.

  6. For someone to get you the Christmas gift YOU have always wanted

    And no this is not some home appliance or gadget. It would be something like… oh I don’t know… a day of pampering, a day long shopping spree or really just a day of to do nothing.

  7. To have some help in the kitchen

    I am not sure why the responsibility to create all of the baked goods for Christmas always falls on mom. I mean Dad’s can cook to right? Plus, this could really create a happy holiday scene of time shared in the kitchen. Instead of the holiday horror film of a mom covered in flour, baking like a maniac and screaming at everyone to let here get this done. No, when mom is in this state do not ask if she can get you some juice or if she knows where you cell phone charger is. If you are not offering her help, then leave her alone.

  8.  A really comfy pair of PJ’s and a chance to stay in them all day

    No explanations needed

  9. To not have to try and see both sides of the family on Christmas Day

    The effort it takes to try and please everyone not only leaves you exhausted and annoyed but never really pleases anyone. The kids can’t get time to play with their new toys so they are unhappy. Plus, each side of the family feels like you showed up too late or left too early. In most cases they feel slighted no matter how much you rush.

  10. To remember this is about giving not getting

    That mean you mom. It is ok to give to yourself. You deserve to create for yourself a memorable special holiday filled with love for family and love for the many gifts god has given you this year. Take some time for quiet reflection, go to church, go for a walk but give yourself a break from the hectic pace of the holiday’s to get in touch with what brings you joy.


5 Mistakes I’m trying not to make this Holiday Season


This holiday season kind of snuck up on me. The busyness, the shopping, the craziness, the need to met everyone’s needs. It is easy to lose sight of what the season is suppose to be about. This holiday I feel even less prepared, less ready and it’s as if time has sped up. So I’m going to try and take a step back. Try to correct the mistakes I have made in the past so this year I can really enjoy the holidays. Here are 5 mistakes I will try to avoid this time around.

  1.  Overspending – I run around like a lunatic trying to get the perfect gift for everyone and spending way more than I budgeted. This year I have come to realize what my family needs are not more things. It is more time together, making memories. Another set of glasses, or a decorative item will not mean all that much as a nice lunch together with a friend, or a craft project with Grandma. I mean do we really need another knick knack that will get lost in the never ending parade of things?
  2. Overeating – I like to bake. I like baked goods. This time of year I do a lot of both. Usually, I overdo it. Then feel absolutely sick and disgusted with myself come January 1. This cycle starts on Halloween and ends with my pants being to tight come the new year. This year the cycle was starting, (See my Can’t stop eating Halloween Candy. post) but this year I found a great, support group. This has helped me steer away from the treats and goodies all around this time of year. I even lost weight during Thanksgiving! Wow, that is a first.
  3. Not being grateful -I will admit this time of year, I tend to only see the negative. The hustle and bustle, the frenzy of gift buying, the craziness of too much to do. I don’t stop and think of being grateful for this life, my health, the loving people I have around me. This year I am going to try and take stock. I want to start the new year being more focused of the riches I have then the things I don’t. Because really it is all about perspective.
  4. Overscheduling -Every year I have a list of holiday activities I would like to do. I squeeze these activity into the margins of time I have and end up rushing through them on to the next event of activity. This one I think will be the toughest for me to break free from. I am a list-maker (In case you couldn’t tell) But during the holidays I get so focused on accomplishing stuff on my list that I forget to enjoy the moment. This year, I will try to keep it light and breezy and not overdue it in this area. I will try to stay in the moment as they wp-1449688781361.jpghappen.
  5. Remember the Reason for the Season -I am Catholic.  You might not be. But the themes of the holidays are universal. Giving, caring for one another, showing kindness, brotherhood, family, love… there is so much more to this season then shopping, eating and decorations. It is a feeling that, regardless of religion, we can all experience. Because really who is offended my a Christmas Tree? Or a Menorah? Or a Nativity?  It’s just a thing, a symbol. It’s the feelings they evoke that are what is important. It’s the history and tradition that we can all learn from. Who really cares if you tell someone Merry Christmas who doesn’t celebrate it. It’s the point that you are wishing them well, to be merry, to be happy. That you care for your fellow man. That’s what matters, not which holiday you are offended by.
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