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Why I had to break-up with cake decorating

cakeFor any of you that have been following this blog for a while you have heard me talk about, and seen me post my cakes. Last year, I decided to get serious about cake decorating and pursue it as a business. I got business cards, attended conferances and classes, and started taking on a steady stream of orders at a reduced starter price. The last part might have been my down fall.wpid-20150905_131320-1.jpg

I research the heck out of running a cake business and felt I was ready to get started. However, I lacked the confidance in my skills to charge full price, so I offered my services for a deep, deep discount. In January, I was gung-ho, and took on enough orders to carry me thought until April. I was so stoked! But then an odd thing happened. A week before each order was due, I found myself getting nervous, anxious and irritable. I was unable to take care of my house during the week before the order due date. I also found ,as much as I might try to schedule things outside of family time, it was always seeping into those hours.wp-1456191905077.jpg

In addition to the family intrustion, money was becoming a huge factor. Each time I had an order due I would have to do a fairly large outlay of money in supplies. In most cases the supply cost far exceeded the cost I was charging for the cake. So it was almost as if I was paying the customer for the cost of letting me do a cake for them. This started creating additional resentment and anger towards the craft.

I found with each order my resentment grew. I was sacrificing time with my family and it was costing me money in the process. Ok, I was learning but was it worth it? I was starting to feel like it wasn’t. But I was resistant to giving it up, I didn’t want to be a quitter.wp-1454870790682.jpg

By the end of Febuary I started to realize I was not in love with cake decorating like I had been just a fewmonths prior. I wanted to devote more time to my family, and had started wanting to expand the reach of my blog. My interests were changing and I found that I no longer wanted to decorate cakes anymore. After a long conversation with a trusted friend she stressed the idea that I must narrow my focus and pick where I wanted to go. Then I finally made the desion that I would no longer take on any cake orders and let the idea of a cake business fade into the background.

The other twist to this story was once I shared this with my family, they were surprisingly excited about my decision. They felt the resentment, anxity and neglect that was brought on by this venture. They wanted to be supportive of me and said nothing. But in reality they secretly wanted me to stop doing cake decorating. I had no idea this had such a big obvious impact on my family, but there it was clear as day. My kids were only little once and I was exchanging time with them for a business that I didn’t even enjoy anymore.wpid-wp-1445282137010.jpg

I might decide to try and start a cake business one day when I have more time. When my children are older. When I’m not working full-time. But for now I have decided to keep it as an occasional hobby and something to bring me joy. Not stress.wpid-20150822_162657-1.jpg

So what is my reason for telling you this story? To reinforce the idea that it is ok to change your mind. Sometime if it’s for the right reasons, it’s ok to be a quitter.

 

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Tea and Cake Tuesday

For Tea and Cake Tuesday, I will share with you my Christmas Eve cake. This is the first cake I (kind of) designed myself. Also it was the biggest one I had ever done so it presented quite a challenge for me time wise and transportation wise. It was a great experiment and I learned so much. Looking towards next year remember to keep challenging yourself.

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Tea and Cake Tuesday

This is a cake I made for a friend a few weeks ago. It was my first attempt at a carved cake and first attempt at the fondant inlay technique. I learned so much from this. Really enjoyed doing it. Just a reminder to never stop learning.

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Also with the holiday season upon us I’m really into mint teas. They are also very soothing to the stomach. ***Since I have really fallen in love with tea lately, I thought I should post a link here if you would like to purchase some for yourself. wp-1448981373857.jpg

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Tea and Cake Tuesday

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My day is not going as planned and I’m having to improvise. Today I have to do my post from my phone. That’s the way somedays go I guess. So today I share with you a little cake I did for a friend’s birthday. It was my first attempt at
sugar roses.

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Also, here is a Holiday Tea I’m really enjoying at the moment. Spicy and floral, really different. Here is to making the most of your day.

Tea and Cake Tuesday

wpid-wp-1445282137010.jpgLast week I was doing some cake decorating and had to change the cake design midstream. Sometimes things happen for a reason because the cake ended up being sold and the proceeds went to support a Making Strides Against Breast Cancer Walk Team. I was really happy about being able to contribute to this cause and very please with how the cake came out.

Don’t forget October is Breast Cancer Awareness month so be sure to get a screening, support a breast cancer charity, and wear pink. For more information or to find a walk in your area visit cancer.org.

What I Learned From My Day Away

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Having a day off of making dinner, cleaning the house, driving to baseball, doing laundry and the regular household routine, gave me time to think. It gave me a moment to reflect on things in my life and things I have been missing. Here are some things I learned about myself.

  1. If it were up to me I would watch no TV. On a typical night my husband will flip on whatever the newest as how is and I will dutifully sit beside him and watch. However, it never really occupied to me that I could care less we what we watched. It was the act of sitting beside him that I enjoyed. I discover that I had no desire to turn on the TV when I was by myself.tv-remote-1480367
  2. I missed having time to getting ready in the morning. Doing my hair and putting on make up. Most mornings, I barely make it through a shower before the kids are at the door asking for something or needing some help of some sort. I love them and I love to help them, but this has always left me rushing to get myself ready and neglecting myself in the process. This process leaves my hair only partially dried, thrown into a bun and the makeup left on the counter unused. In addition I am usually scrambling to get clothes on before I have to get in the car and battle traffic. Not a great way to start the day. Unprepared and rushed.
  3. I forgot to eat. For years food has been my comfort. My reward. My friend. While I was away I did things I enjoyed and I didn’t want to stop to eat. Matter of fact, it wasn’t even an idea in my head until my stomach growled. Doing something for myself made me feel energized and full of life. Instead of bored, underappreciated and seeking comfort.
  4. I need quiet time. It was nice to have a moment where I was alone with my thoughts. When I was younger this would occur when I would go for long walks alone. Before I had children and a household to manage. I would think through things that bothered me. Reflect and process the my feelings. I didn’t even know I was missing this time until this weekend.
  5. I need to live my life for me in addition to others. I realized how I feel is just as important as how my family feels. I need to love myself in addition to loving them. Not constantly sacrificing my wants and needs for something they are not even asking me to do. I also have to realize that by trying to do it all I am handicapping my children. How will they ever grow up into self sufficient people if I continue to do everything for them. They will come to expect everyone to do everything for them and never experience the pride in accomplishing things for themselves. Likewise, I need to pull back. I need to stop trying to do it all and remember I don’t want to be the person who is always tired, frustrated and yelling. I don’t want to be someone who has unrealistic expectations that they are trying to achieved. I need to remember that it is ok to do something for myself every now and them. I am worth that.
So as you can see I learned much more than cake decorating this weekend. But this is a lesson we can all benefit from. So I challenge you to take a moment to take stock of your daily routine and examine where you can find some time for yourself. Even if it is just a moment to sit and think. We all need a moment to ourselves. Be sure to find yours.

Just when you thought things couldn’t get any cakier…

Dresses made of cake decorating materials, edible dresses…yes, dresses, clothing. I know it sounds weird and even a little inappropriate but they were oh so beautiful. Amazing. I could not attend the actually fashion show. The tickets we’re just to pricey but they dispayed the creations the next day and they we’re just stunning. I so enjoyed my time at the cake fair and actually got an  opportunity to see some of the cake industries biggest stars like Ron Ben-Israel and Collette Peters. I also got to meet some of my own cake idols I stalk on Periscope like Liz Marek.  I learned so much and was so glad for the opportunity to go. Anyway enough talk here are some pictures.

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