This is a question that has plagued me and pretty much all mom’s from the moment we became a mom. I remember driving home from the hospital in complete terror, wondering how these people at the hospital can let ME take home something so fragile, delicate and moldable. The weight of the task of being mom hit me full force during that drive. Everything I do will effect this little being. If I am in a bad mood and yell, if I am a smothering mom, if I screw up it will effect them.
Add into that the constant media barrage of bad parenting and awful choices made by parents. There is a crazy expectation that once you become a parent that you can no longer make a mistake . You can no longer be human. You must be a robotic model of June Clever motherhood perfection. You have to be in constant control of your emotions, create lasting memories of happiness, and provide healthy wonderful meals. It is impossible and we woman are crushed under this unattainable expectation.
Today I share with you a fantastic periscope interview done by my friend Kathleen Peters and Therapist Connie Baker. Here she answers this question perfectly. Will you screw up your children? Yes and no. But what you feel is a screw up is actually forming them into the person they were meant to be. It is an uplifting perspective on this question and one I had never thought of. This discussion is golden. It really put my mind at ease. Yes, I’m screwing up my kids but that’s ok as long as they know I’m human and they are loved. I know this will help you mama’s out there are much as it helped me.